Sympathetic People Pleaser


You are a sympathetic, kind, caring individual. Now it is time to use your generous nature and take a positive, decisive step forward by releasing your main form of self-sabotage:
 

Your subconscious programming keeps you in a pattern of being a Caretaker and a People Pleaser making this your main form of self sabotage.
 

This isn't a character flaw, and it really isn't who you are. It's a pattern of behavior that your subconscious adopted to help you adjust to life's lessons.

 

As a sympathetic people pleaser or caretaker, you often do everything you can to make others happy. Your kind, generous, caring nature focuses on helping others get what they want and need. Usually you are also very responsible.

Is there anything wrong with being kind, caring and helpful?

Absolutely not!

Unless it comes at your own expense.

Taking care of everyone else can be exhausting, leaving you drained, overwhelmed and stretched in too many directions.

It also can attract the wrong type of relationship.

Take charge, strong-willed director 

 

You are a determined, purposeful, confident individual. Now it is time to use your skills and take a positive, decisive step forward by uncovering your main form of self-sabotage:
 

Your subconscious programming keeps you in a pattern of needing to take charge, take control, making this your main form of self sabotage.
 

This isn't a character flaw, and it really isn't who you are. It's a pattern of behavior that your subconscious adopted to help you adjust to life's lessons.
 

This is what keeps you from creating an amazing relationship and the life you were meant to live with the person you want to share it with.
 

As an strong-willed director, you often do everything you can to avoid feeling anxious, worried and out of control. You truly do want a wonderful, loving relationship, but your fears based upon old programming cause you to be overly suspicious and unable to let go of the desire to remain in charge of each situation.

Yes, taking care of situations can make you a great leader. As you will learn, there are both positive and negative aspects to being in control.

A true leader doesn’t need to take charge in order out of mistrust of others or a need to be in control, they naturally take charge because they have high level of self confidence and trust in themselves to make good choices and decisions.

Unhealthy control issues come from a place of worry and irrational fears and will force you to be shut down to your partner's wishes.

Shy, Introverted Avoider 

 

You are a shy, worried but caring individual who struggles with anxiety. Now it is time to use your strengths and take a decisive step forward by uncovering your main form of self-sabotage:

 

Your subconscious programming keeps you in a pattern of feeling anxious, worried and concerned, making this your main form of self sabotage.

 

This is what keeps you from creating an amazing relationship and the life you were meant to live with the person you want to share it with.

As an anxious avoider, you often do everything you can to avoid relationships that cause you to feel anxious, worried and afraid. You truly do want a wonderful, loving relationship, but your fears created by old programming cause you to avoid situations of intimacy and connections. You find yourself isolating and choosing to be alone.

Is there anything wrong with being in alone?

Absolutely not!

Unless it comes at your own expense.

 

Yes, being alone to escape feelings is a recipe for a life of isolation, despair and unhappiness.

While others may go out after work for a drink, go to a movie, or spend time being social, you will either avoid these situations or mix with others if you know they are safe and not romantically available.

Fun-Loving Free Spirit

 

You are an outgoing, dynamic, fun-loving individual who loves your freedom. Now it is time to use your boundless energy and take a positive, decisive step forward by uncovering your main form of self-sabotage:
 

Your subconscious programming keeps you in a pattern of seeking fun and pleasure making this your main form of self sabotage.
 

This isn't a character flaw, and it really isn't who you are. It's a pattern of behavior that your subconscious adopted to help you adjust to life's lessons.
 

This is what keeps you from creating an amazing relationship and the life you were meant to live with the person you want to share it with.

As a fun-loving free spirit, you often do everything you can to just have a great time and enjoy life. Relationships are fine - as long as they aren’t too serious. You rarely take any of them too seriously, preferring to live in the moment and not be tied down.

A part of you does want a wonderful, loving relationship, but another part of you is afraid that somehow it will rob you of your freedom and tie you down. In a similar way, those obsessed with their career end up doing the same thing. Both of you may be open to a relationship but only if it doesn’t interfere with your greater desire for fun or success.

Is there anything wrong with wanting to enjoy life and seeking pleasure?

Absolutely not!

Unless it comes at your own expense.

Yes, focusing upon just having fun or only being successful is ultimately a recipe for a life of isolation, self-doubt and unhappiness.