Controller

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Congratulations!
 

You have taken a positive, decisive step forward by uncovering your main form of self-sabotage:
 

 

You are a controller.
 

This is what keeps you from creating an amazing relationship and the life you were meant to live with the person you want to share it with.
 

Are you ready to learn how to overcome this form of subconscious self-sabotage?
 

As a controller, you often do everything you can to avoid feeling anxious, worried and out of control. You truly do want a wonderful, loving relationship, but your fears based upon old programming cause you to be overly suspicious and unable to let go of the desire to remain in charge of each situation.
 

Is there anything wrong with being in control?
 

Absolutely not!
 

Unless it comes at your own expense.
 

Yes, taking care of situations can make you a great leader. As you will learn, there are both positive and negative aspects to being in control.
 

A true leader doesn’t need to be in control, they naturally take control because they have high level of self confidence and trust in themselves to make good choices and decisions.
 

Unhealthy control issues mean you will be shut down to others’ wishes and comes from a place of worry and irrational fears.
 

Are you a “bad person” for wanting to be in control?

Absolutely not again!
 

It’s programming that causes you to react this way, not intelligence.
 

The true, healthy, authentic you within wants to be able to trust in life and not be so controlling and resistive, but the old, negatively programmed subconscious mind, in this instance, will use control to keep you emotionally safe.
 

It wants you to avoid getting too close to anyone and remove yourself from situations that trigger irrational fears of dread and concern. These fears will be mind-crippling and cause you to doubt your own sanity, as its common for you to not even know why you are reacting this way.
 

Backing out of an engagement, a committed relationship, or some other deepening of a romantic connection is the path chosen by an individual using the form of programming called control.
 

Right now, take just one minute and reflect back upon how experiences in your own life could have created these beliefs.
 

Remember, your subconscious mind has been programmed over the first 16 years by negative and positive experiences. What you do well is the result of these positive beliefs, what causes you concern and fear is the result of the negative experiences.
 

You discover that your subconscious programming seems to have a mind of its own. That no matter how hard you try it is just difficult to overcome irrational fears and beliefs.
 

 

Over the years, these beliefs will tend to fade, but my goal is to have you experience wonderfully fulfilling and healthy relationships now, not when you are 60, 70 or 80!
 

Growing up, we often are subjected to experiences that force our controlling subconscious mind to change our inner belief about ourselves and how to best cope with life. Perhaps you move to a new school and as the new kid others may pick on you or make fun of you, as children often do to cover up their own feelings of anxiety and despair. In this way, your subconscious mind decides that the best way to survive is to avoid confrontation by controlling your environment.

Or perhaps in your teenage years you have a difficult breakup that left you devastated and full of self-doubt.
 

In these instances, your subconscious mind vows to never be hurt again, to avoid opening up to others, to remove you from any situation that would bring up old fears, to control your life.
 

 

This inner subconscious directive runs counter to the healthy desire you also have for love, joy and fulfillment. This healthy part of you wants to find someone to love. This makes your form of self-sabotage different than more anxious individuals, for you actively engage in a relationship until they become too close and trigger old, negative feelings and irrational fears.
 

So even though the healthy you may want a romantic relationship, what you actually need is to heal your fears.
 

So, what can you do about it?
 

 

First, let me take a few moments to tell you why you should take a few minutes to attend to what I say.

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My name is David Greenwood. Over the last 25 years I have used counseling, hypnotherapy, life coaching, and other forms of personal growth facilitation to help thousands of clients achieve their dreams.

 My website at GreenwoodHypnotherapy.com contains all the 5 star Google and Yelp reviews I have received over the years.
 

My first training was in relationships, as I personally had to overcome my own issues to heal my wounds. I had a disastrous relationship in high school, which caused my subconscious mind to find someone what wouldn’t hurt me. But this led to me drawing someone who was safe, which created with a whole different set of negative beliefs and behaviors. Eventually this culminated in our divorce.
 

My website at GreenwoodHypnotherapy.com contains all the 5 star Google and Yelp reviews I have received over the years.
 

My first training was in relationships, as I personally had to overcome my own issues to heal my wounds. I had a disastrous relationship in high school, which caused my subconscious mind to find someone what wouldn’t hurt me. But this led to me drawing someone who was safe, which created with a whole different set of negative beliefs and behaviors. Eventually this culminated in our divorce.

In my own healing, I found something that I once lacked called “healthy boundaries”, which is what I want you to experience as well.

The first step is realizing you have this program playing within you, one that directs your subconscious mind to actively support this belief you have about yourself, what you deserve and how to do relationships.

 

 

Remember, most of this was created over the first 16 years of your life when your mind was in a state of first theta then alpha brainwaves, which are very suggestible states of consciousness and program your core beliefs as to what you deserve and the relationships you draw.
 

It’s vital to first understand the issue then set a course to create new, healthy beliefs in your subconscious mind.
 

We offer an integrated program of life coaching, self hypnosis, counseling and numerous other self growth modalities.
 

Healthy individuals have healthy relationships.

 

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It isn’t easy to overcome years of negative programming, but you are worth it!
 

To this end, I would like to offer you a free video to help you understand how and why your subconscious controls you so that you can take the first step of taking back control over how you think, feel, say and do.
 

As you can imagine, this has everything to do with the quality and nature of your romantic relationships.
 

Here’s the link to your free video, and after watching it I know you will feel hopeful to finally have the key as to how to overcome the self-sabotage and create amazing relationships.
 

 

Which now you will.
 

Enjoy the video!

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