Are you fulfilling your dreams? Do you know that failure is the key to success?
I am so glad to be with you today as we explore this episode of the Guardian Files.
As we discussed in the last episode, your Guardian Files represent everything you have heard, seen and felt throughout your life, especially your early years.
On these episodes we will focus upon how your own particular Guardian Files have influenced and controlled every aspect of your life, for our goal is to explore how to set you free to live the life you deserve and desire.
Do you ever feel like a failure?Wonder what happened to your life goals?Did someone keep you from being successful, or did your just not get it together and make it happen?
And if what we discuss sparks your interest and you want to learn more, please watch the videos, “Your Innermost Secrets”, which you can use for free. More information and videos can be found by going to my website at yourlifeinthenow.com. You can also explore these topics on videos by going to my YouTube channel, also called Your Life in the Now.
So let’s dive in…
Today we will explore how despite all the challenges of a difficult upbringing you will draw experiences that trigger negative reactions within you. These experiences aren’t issues to be avoided or ignored, they actually represent opportunities to see issues for what they are - simply old beliefs and negative behaviors which can be addressed and resolved. This allows you to create new beliefs and behaviors that lead to succe
Lets go into this one step at a time.
First, what do we mean when we say that we have succeeded or failed at something?
I started thinking about this the other day while I was listening to one of the many positive, supportive podcasts featuring self-help experts in the field of healthy relationships, successfully overcoming old habits, achieving physical and emotional health, motivational speakers and so many more.
All of them are considered accomplished in their field. Successful. And their words and methods are eagerly sought out by others.
The wisdom they offered is very familiar. Work smart, work hard, stay focused, stay committed, stay positive, and just don’t stop.
Follow their directions, their programs, their plans and you too, will have healthy relationships, lose that weight, achieve financial security, create business success and much more.
If only it were that easy.
You leave the course, the presentation, the seminar feeling inspired, motivated, and ready to get it done.
Yet you return to your daily life and find that it just doesn’t work or you have no time to practice what you learned. Over time you may feel frustrated. Maybe you blame the course. Most likely you blame life itself as being so busy you don’t have time to make it happen. Or perhaps you realize that something distracts you when you try and focus upon what you learned.
Is this failure?
In reality statistics show that actually about 5-10% of anyone following a particular plan will ever complete these programs and achieve a level of success that they believed they would achieve.
I think it’s important to realize that for every success story you read in print, hear on the radio, and see on the internet or television, there are hundreds of people who just didn’t achieve success or reach their goals.
The fact is that we always hear from the few that made it. Of course the successful people are the ones who talk about success, about what they did to achieve their goals and assured you that you can do the same.
Of course they say that. It’s their reality. It’s their life experience. They made it happen and if you follow their advice they believe that you will also be successful.
Well, at least for 5-10% of you anyway.Rarely do you hear from those that failed.
Now, don’t go ballistic on me because of course they aren’t failures! The fact is that if you couldn’t get it done you probably on some level believed that you had failed. You will either move onto the next program or quit altogether.
You might have heard the common phrase, “History is written by the victors”. Well, in a similar way, “Success is written by the successful.” It makes sense, of course. Who but the successful are best suited and most likely to be sought out to learn about what it takes to become successful?
There’s no shortage of wonderful programs out there. Look at the thousands and thousands of videos, podcasts, blogs, books, articles and shows about what to do and how you can change your life by following certain methods and words of wisdom.
So what’s stopping you?Why does success still elude you?
If the experts in a particular area or endeavor can’t always assure you of success, then what can you do?
The problem isn’t with your lack of dreams, it isn’t a lack of intelligence, or motivation, or knowledge, or even will power.
No, I suggest that what robs you of the life that you want to live is your subconscious negative programming.My technical term for it is your inner crap.
All that inner crap is put into your open, suggestible mind over the first 16 years of your life. This was downloaded into your mind from either wounded, mean, unfeeling, imperfect, unintentional people during difficult circumstances and unfortunate experiences. Yes, from everyone you encountered growing up.
The sum total of these experiences created your core beliefs and prime directives of your Guardian, the voice of your subconscious programming.
As we explored in past episodes, your Guardian is the protector and facilitator of your inner core beliefs. It combines everything you have experienced and creates inner beliefs and behaviors that fit with what it thinks you deserve.
You might have heard the arguments as to whether your inherent genetic nature or your learned, environmental level of nurture is responsible for your inner conditioning and personality.
I believe both are responsible, and in my 25 years of experience have seen many examples in how both play significant and unique roles in how you react and respond to challenges.
The fact is that in certain areas you are programmed for success and in others you are filled with self-doubt and a lack of self-confidence. To give up, to quit, to not believe in yourself. And despite being successful in some parts of your life, in other areas you might still feel like a failure.
Even the most successful people have both healthy and unhealthy subconscious programming, and while they find success in one area they still have self doubts and concerns in others.
In certain areas your programming might support a healthy, loving relationship yet be plagued with money issues. Perhaps you were programmed for money and financial success yet burdened with terrible relationship issues. Or you have both a pessimistic inner nature and were raised in a difficult environment so that you face very difficult challenges.
The one absolute fact that emerged is that when you make an earnest effort to change your subconscious programming by using an approach that focuses on processing at this deep level of awareness, you finally are able to overcome a lifetime of setbacks and create a healthier self.